Betony’s Pleasure Lesson
AN INTRODUCTION TO ENHANCED PLEASURE
Paradise Found Sexual Ceremony
A massage is a divine way to initiate intimate contact, especially if your partner is not quite ready and is perhaps tense or preoccupied. An erotic massage will permit you to back off yet continue to transport your lover into the sexual realm, such as during an intermission. It is also an excellent way to get a sensory overview of the sensual land- scape. If you feel insecure about administering massages, read about the subject, or take a class to help you build confidence and develop some skills. Getting a massage is also great way to learn how to give a massage.”
Be aware of your orgasm
Learn to relax into your pleasure. Remind yourself to breathe into the sensations you are experiencing as your pleasure mounts, rather than holding your breath. Deep, full breaths send pure oxy- genated blood throughout the entire body, including the genitals. So breathe with ecstatic purpose: let fresh oxygen relax the mind and purify and enliven the entire body. A calm mind is a more creative mind, which leads the body to become more receptive to pleasure. The disciplines of yoga and meditation incorporate breath awareness and control in the earliest stages of the practice. Their techniques can be utilized in the Paradise Found Sexual Ceremony to great effect. As many yogis say, ‘Where the mind goes, the body follows.’”
We tend to masturbate in a hurry as a means of discharging sexual tension. Approaching masturbation as a ritual entails setting more time aside for pleasuring yourself—to explore the body and experience the effects of new sensations before sharing them with a lover. Ritual masturbation can be used to map the body’s sensory range of pleasure. By becoming aware of your own responses to different forms of stimulation, and even observing yourself in a mirror, you will better understand your own desires. Nothing is sexier than a lover who knows what she or he needs.
Many people associate masturbation with solitude and moments when sex with a partner is not possible. This has perpetuated one of the greatest myths surrounding masturbation: that we should stop pleasuring ourselves once we are in a happy relationship. Those who continue to masturbate on their own despite being in a relationship are often wrongly considered to be sexually unsatisfied. In reality, masturbation increases readiness in women, and as long as it is not practiced merely as a means to orgasm in association with ejaculation by men, it is a great way to increase desire for a partner’s loving attention. Masturbation has the advantage of keeping the genitals toned and ready for action. Like any other muscle in the body, the pelvic-floor muscles that surround and support the sexual apparatus are healthier when they are regularly called into action. Masturbating together or inviting your lover to watch you masturbate during partner sex is great fun and also demystifies the masturbation taboo. It can teach partners about each other’s response to genital stimulation.
If you are not in a relationship or are between partners, practicing the ritual of self-loving on a regular basis will help to avoid the neg- ative effects of sexual frustration as well as the possibility that the libido may go lax through erotic complacency. Masturbation will keep the body primed until someone with whom to celebrate the shared joys of the sexual ritual comes along. It also has the power to reverse the subliminal effects of culturally induced sexual taboos and repression. In addition, masturbation has the power to revive lazy libidos, to renew waning desire between established couples, and enhance the orgasmic response.”
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